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My library Help Advanced Book Search. It was very useful for me personally to understand that clinginess and love-addiction are not the only traits of codependence, but also tendencies to create emotional barriers, inability to acknowledge one’s own needs and enmeshing others’ emotions with your own, among other things.
There were some good, eye-opening moments, but I would have preferred more discussion about steps forward, rather than the repeated bludgeoning of how messed up co-dependents are and how hopeless their future as parents will be.
So much of what Pia writes about in this book hit home for me, especially the part where she emphasizes that trauma isn’t just about the huge life events that we think of when we hear the word “Trauma,” but also about all the little traumas that add up to have a profound impact on our lives.
Books by Pia Mellody. The sole redeeming thing about this book is that it is an accurate portrayal of abuse and how it runs through families.
Overall, the book did teach me about codependence but I was left wanting more. Buy with confidence, excellent customer service! In her first book in over ten years, internationally recognized expert on dependence and recovery, Pia Mellody, shows us how to break free from harmful relationships and to learn how to attain the intimacy we need and deserve. It also covers alcoholism. In my mind, that was translated that to mean that all of a person’s problems are the fault of his or her parents.
I didn’t understand what codependence was, nor had I any desire to understand another mainstream label of behavioral dysfunction. This is such an important and critical book.
Her repeated statements at how much of bad parenting could be construed as abuse seemed excessive and unhelpfully exaggerated. Still, it has begun to change my life -a positive and thus a functional change- so who am I to complain?
It was a difficult read mostly due to the content- discussion of abuse, trauma, etc, the tone of the book is mainly conversational in nature so it took me a codepdndence to finish.
She vacing a lot on anecdotal evidence and bad science for the basis of her book. My long running theory is that we are all addicts, and that the majority of our problems come from not understanding why we feel compelled to do things and our inability to evaluate our track record after engaging in those behaviors.
Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences. User Review – Flag as inappropriate Excellent!
Pia Mellody is brilliant. According to this book, codepehdence means someone who cannot establish self esteem from who they are independent of what they can do for others, it means someone who has trouble establishing boundaries. All in all, this book is OK. WIthout going into too much detail, I came to really understand and even agree with Mellody’s view of how a parent can influence a child facinv how the child has the capacity to recover from abusive influence, whether intentional or not.
This book focused heavily on what codependence is and how it develops.
There were some good, eye-opening This was an intense book with a lot of hyperbole and very little hope. Even when we found ourselves checking every box, her soothing words welcomed us and let us take up our space. I was raised with the notion that “It’s not that bad,” no matter what it was or how bad it was.
I would be interested find out about other books on codependence from the same perspective. Strangely, the book is more about the things I just mentioned and about living a healthy life than it is about codependency.
Through Mellody’s unique system of boundary practice, developed over her twenty years as a counselor and consultant, you can: Jul 21, Pamela H rated it it was ok. A very friendly and honestly written book; but the style of writing can become repetitive and dull over the chapters. Central to Mellody’s approach is the concept that the codependent adult’s injured inner child needs healing. I think most people, “codependent” facibg not could find something to relate to in this book. This workbook also includes specific exercises for getting into an ongoing process of recovery and journaling your progress.
I felt that there should have been more of a focus on adaptative behaviors. Perhaps her accompanying workbook, Breaking Free goes into how one can begin to identify and work through codependency.
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives
The focuses on defining and recognizing codependence rather than how to correct it which I had been expecting I hadn’t wanted to read this book but it was recommended to me so I finally read through it. Showing best matches Show all copies. I’m so sad I missed learning from her directly.
I convinced myself to rea I really didn’t want to read this book. A very interesting story. What non-codependents do is exhibit dysfunctional behavior from time to time; since they are imperfect beings humansbut there is a difference between imperfect behavior and life-sabotaging behavior.
It was good to hear from an expert that it was as bad as I felt it and that it was ok for me to feel whatever I felt about it. She characterizes codependence as a continuum of dysfunctional behaviors arising from a lack of dynamic boundaries between self and other. This book also gives the best definition of boundaries I have come across yet and how it can impact not only how one relates or interacts with other people but also one’s own boundaries with the self.
This book Let me preface this recommendation by saying that it is one of the worst edited and poorly arranged books I’ve ever read. Cori Yes she is although this year she retired from teaching her psychotherapy model to therapists.
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody
Even as a seasoned therapist of nearly 10 years, this book opened my eyes to the insidious nature of different kinds of abuse I had not given much thought to before. She talks about boundaries, which I think are hugely undervalued. Writing on the books fly page. Her recovery work-shops have benefited people all over the world and her bestselling books have been translated into many languages.
This book is loaded with insight, definitions, causes and a few cures.